You decided to lose weight and now what?
As i mentioned in my previous post that isn't so simple.
The following questions really can help you - knowing
precisely what you want and why, and aware of the component parts you need to address as you move along in your weight loss effort.:
What new difficulty will arise when I finally lose all this weight?
Odd question, surely but it was answered by the lady who said that she felt naked and vulnerable, when she lost weight. The protective barrier is missing, without the need for it resolved so its highly likely that a level of fear, at the very least, will be experienced.
For those who have been through a number of diets, this area is not so hard to look at because you'll have been through the experience of losing weight more than once – and knowing that once the feeling of euphoria fades, other darker feelings intrude which seem to draw you back into the past habits from before the diet.
What are these feelings and what do you feel them to represent? Why do you need the protection of fat. Against the past? Against the present? Against something that might happen in the future? How does fat keep you safe? From what? From whom?
This leads on to the second question.
What old pain or trauma have you neglected to work through or heal? How often do you eat to avoid the feelings connected with this issue. It certainly doesn't have to be of the magnitude of childhood sexual abuse and most frequently is painfully simple in origin. Perhaps, as a child,
you didn't experience the feeling of being loved – an innate drive in children – and often because some parents don't know how to express their love for their child and are unable to show affection physically. An adult could look at this and explain it in terms of the parent's own past and upbringing but a child does not have this capacity.
A child will observe what happens with its friends and
subconsciously make a comparison that is unfavorable to itself. In other words, a subconscious misunderstanding will trigger that compared to others, you are somehow, inexplicably defective or bad, and not capable of being loved. There is an instant rift in your own psyche and the subconscious mechanisms have to find a way of numbing
or compensating for the sort of feelings that wreak havoc with cell systems and processes. Inappropriate eating habits are one of many possible mechanisms it can use.
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As i mentioned in my previous post that isn't so simple.
The following questions really can help you - knowing
precisely what you want and why, and aware of the component parts you need to address as you move along in your weight loss effort.:
What new difficulty will arise when I finally lose all this weight?
Odd question, surely but it was answered by the lady who said that she felt naked and vulnerable, when she lost weight. The protective barrier is missing, without the need for it resolved so its highly likely that a level of fear, at the very least, will be experienced.
For those who have been through a number of diets, this area is not so hard to look at because you'll have been through the experience of losing weight more than once – and knowing that once the feeling of euphoria fades, other darker feelings intrude which seem to draw you back into the past habits from before the diet.
What are these feelings and what do you feel them to represent? Why do you need the protection of fat. Against the past? Against the present? Against something that might happen in the future? How does fat keep you safe? From what? From whom?
This leads on to the second question.
What old pain or trauma have you neglected to work through or heal? How often do you eat to avoid the feelings connected with this issue. It certainly doesn't have to be of the magnitude of childhood sexual abuse and most frequently is painfully simple in origin. Perhaps, as a child,
you didn't experience the feeling of being loved – an innate drive in children – and often because some parents don't know how to express their love for their child and are unable to show affection physically. An adult could look at this and explain it in terms of the parent's own past and upbringing but a child does not have this capacity.
A child will observe what happens with its friends and
subconsciously make a comparison that is unfavorable to itself. In other words, a subconscious misunderstanding will trigger that compared to others, you are somehow, inexplicably defective or bad, and not capable of being loved. There is an instant rift in your own psyche and the subconscious mechanisms have to find a way of numbing
or compensating for the sort of feelings that wreak havoc with cell systems and processes. Inappropriate eating habits are one of many possible mechanisms it can use.
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