Why do you want to lose weight???

"Why do you want to lose weight?" 

It's obvious, isn't it. `I don't like being fat'. Or variations on the theme. But it simply isn't good enough, and unless you get your thinking a lot clearer and more directed, it's a little like throwing a paper airplane that a child might make, at the moon and hoping it will land bang on target.

If you binge on junk as a response to over powerful and
frightening emotions, then the eating does something.

Right?  It makes you feel better, at least for a few minutes, even though in many cases you may be so driven that you neither taste nor enjoy what you are eating but wolf it down. It forms a sort of desperate attempt to numb the fear, the pain, the boredom, the emptiness, whatever it is that drives you.

This is also why it is particularly foolish to look for some
sort of magical new diet plan that will bypass this slight hiccup. That’s why lay aside the food side of life for a while  and start where it really matters – in the emotional arena.

If you take the lid off this Pandora's box, unthinkingly, you can guarantee one thing – you'll find that you have all these same emotions flying around and your habitual response has been to bribe them with food. If you are aware of what is going on, you'll understand, and you'll cope without the need for the binges. If you don't bother to do the essential part first, then you'll be making the trip un-necessarily bumpy emotionally.


The real starting point is to be very clear about what you DO
want. This will elicit any of the factors that may form potential
barriers on the trip ahead. Forewarned is forearmed, and you can move the barriers without running slap bang into them.

If your subconscious is providing you with substantial secondary gains and benefits through being overweight…why do you want to lose weight? What is losing weight going to provide for you in the way of benefits? Do you really know, and know so precisely that you can feel
it in your marrow, or are you coasting along, with the sort of wishy washy, dreamy thinking that says `it would be nice to lose weight. I could, errm..?' Is it just an assumption that being fat feels so bad, that being slimmer just has to be a lot better…somehow.

If you don't know where you are going and why, you are likely to get seriously lost.