Sorry to have kept you waiting for the next part in the questions that can help you in your fight against weight.
I will continue from the point I stopped:
The simple fact is that at this moment you might weigh 300 pounds, when a healthy body range is half this figure. So what?
You weight 300 pounds, and this is a fact of life right now. It won't go away simply because you get angry or desperate or nauseous. Not yet. The first act in weight loss is that of accepting the status quo as the
bottom line – the foundation level.
I weigh 300 pounds, and this is what forms my project with myself. I may weight this now, and I intend to change it downwards. This way you have something non-vague and concrete to start with.
Not worrying about what you weighed ten years ago, or might weigh ten years in the future, but looking at that figure now and saying `OK, this is what the reality is right now, and right now is where I start to go to work on changing my own reality'.
No emotional traumas involved, but you have put in that defining line that says, this is A and Z lies down the road a bit.
So we can move on to the next set of questions that will lighten the darkness and mystery surrounding your weight, and allow you to move on.
Self esteem isn't one aspect but a composite of many elements.
Do you appreciate all the things you can do?
Probably not. In most of modern society with traditional approaches, the dictum that the meek will inherit the earth seems to apply in a peculiarly twisted and distorted form.
We are not encouraged to celebrate our achievements because it is considered vain, egotistical and lacking in modesty, and nor are we trained very often to accept and appreciate compliments paid by others.
If anything we are taught to self sabotage at the very area where self sabotage is guaranteed to work perfectly – the subconscious that is universally ignored.
It isn't a matter of big-headed boasting and bragging in a spirit of self conceit – which is very often the hall mark of a seriously defective self-esteem in the first place.
It is a matter of appreciating your talents, appreciating your efforts, encouraging yourself, praising yourself along the way, and celebrating your contributions to life.
And this is not immodest. Look at any successful person around you, look at any successful sportsman, or sports team, in particular, because the concept of teamwork is central to the village. They do not go out pre-programmed to fail by sabotaging themselves before they begin. And when they do achieve something, they appreciate it, and give themselves due credit.
This feeds back through the subconscious mechanisms to produce very positive feelings that are going to carry them forward in the future and meanwhile make the present a very pleasant time to exist. Its called living with passion!! Not existing in a dozy half dead state of unawareness.
Life is one of the potentially most exciting experiences you can possibly have, and there are few limitations other than those you impose on yourself. Or you can reduce it to an ordeal to be endured.
Take an example: how often have you seen the question posed socially `and who are you?' To which the answer comes `Oh, I'm just a housewife'.
A definition of a person as a role, and a role that is condensed to a self put down rather than a celebration of yourself and your many talents and capabilities as a whole.
You are not your thoughts, you are not your feelings, you are not a body mass of bone and muscle, you are a great deal more and you merely inhabit the vehicle of the body.
So if you start to look at all the things you are capable of doing, rather than all the things you get wrong in life, you'll discover that you are far greater than you ever allowed yourself to see, and you are a totally unique individual.
You have the family traits, you have the family genetic make-up, but you are a completely unique individual and no one who has ever lived or ever will live will ever be identical to you.
see you next time....
I will continue from the point I stopped:
The simple fact is that at this moment you might weigh 300 pounds, when a healthy body range is half this figure. So what?
You weight 300 pounds, and this is a fact of life right now. It won't go away simply because you get angry or desperate or nauseous. Not yet. The first act in weight loss is that of accepting the status quo as the
bottom line – the foundation level.
I weigh 300 pounds, and this is what forms my project with myself. I may weight this now, and I intend to change it downwards. This way you have something non-vague and concrete to start with.
Not worrying about what you weighed ten years ago, or might weigh ten years in the future, but looking at that figure now and saying `OK, this is what the reality is right now, and right now is where I start to go to work on changing my own reality'.
No emotional traumas involved, but you have put in that defining line that says, this is A and Z lies down the road a bit.
So we can move on to the next set of questions that will lighten the darkness and mystery surrounding your weight, and allow you to move on.
Self esteem isn't one aspect but a composite of many elements.
Do you appreciate all the things you can do?
Probably not. In most of modern society with traditional approaches, the dictum that the meek will inherit the earth seems to apply in a peculiarly twisted and distorted form.
We are not encouraged to celebrate our achievements because it is considered vain, egotistical and lacking in modesty, and nor are we trained very often to accept and appreciate compliments paid by others.
If anything we are taught to self sabotage at the very area where self sabotage is guaranteed to work perfectly – the subconscious that is universally ignored.
It isn't a matter of big-headed boasting and bragging in a spirit of self conceit – which is very often the hall mark of a seriously defective self-esteem in the first place.
It is a matter of appreciating your talents, appreciating your efforts, encouraging yourself, praising yourself along the way, and celebrating your contributions to life.
And this is not immodest. Look at any successful person around you, look at any successful sportsman, or sports team, in particular, because the concept of teamwork is central to the village. They do not go out pre-programmed to fail by sabotaging themselves before they begin. And when they do achieve something, they appreciate it, and give themselves due credit.
This feeds back through the subconscious mechanisms to produce very positive feelings that are going to carry them forward in the future and meanwhile make the present a very pleasant time to exist. Its called living with passion!! Not existing in a dozy half dead state of unawareness.
Life is one of the potentially most exciting experiences you can possibly have, and there are few limitations other than those you impose on yourself. Or you can reduce it to an ordeal to be endured.
Take an example: how often have you seen the question posed socially `and who are you?' To which the answer comes `Oh, I'm just a housewife'.
A definition of a person as a role, and a role that is condensed to a self put down rather than a celebration of yourself and your many talents and capabilities as a whole.
You are not your thoughts, you are not your feelings, you are not a body mass of bone and muscle, you are a great deal more and you merely inhabit the vehicle of the body.
So if you start to look at all the things you are capable of doing, rather than all the things you get wrong in life, you'll discover that you are far greater than you ever allowed yourself to see, and you are a totally unique individual.
You have the family traits, you have the family genetic make-up, but you are a completely unique individual and no one who has ever lived or ever will live will ever be identical to you.
see you next time....
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